It happened; my daughter is old enough that she is asking me those tough questions and saying the words to make me wonder where my baby has gone.
For weeks now I have been prepared for the "where do babies come from?" question because one of her friend's mothers is about to have a baby and there has been a lot of discussion about it. I was NOT in anyway prepared for what she did say to me as I brushed her hair on the bathroom floor.
E: "When I grow up I will have a little girl and I will brush her hair too."
Me: "Oh, that will be so nice! You'll make a great Mommy if that is what you want to do."
E: "I do want to be a Mommy and have babies when I am bigger, but I don't want you to be a Grandma."
Me: "Well, if you have babies then I will become a Grandma, just like my Mom is your Grandma."
E: "I want to have babies, but I don't want you to be a Grandma because then you will get old and die."
How the hell do you respond to that?! At this point my eyes were welling up with tears!
Me: "Well, we all die, it is just part of life."
E: "And then you are gone."
Now I'm bawling.
We got into the whole topic of dying and going to Heaven, as much as I could explain through crying any how. I told her it was time to get ready for bed while my husband laughed at me and joked about how I should read them Love You Forever as a bedtime story. I could barely make it through Hello Kitty dressing up as a princess never mind reading that parent kryptonite!
I know there will be many other hard questions and moments that will bring me to tears, this one just really caught me off guard! How do you prepare for the hard questions that your children are going to ask?
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